Divorce is never easy, especially for the children
by Rich Gordon
JD
How to communicate with your children to explain divorce and the use of
mediation to help restore confidence in the children of ...
Don't let your good intentions become great disappointments
by Michael Kimmel
This is my first "Wellness" column for San Diego's BUZZ magazine
(January 2007). In it I address why, at the beginning of every year,
clients come to ...
Drama Queens (and
KINGS)
by Michael Kimmel
In
a perfect world, drama belongs on stage, not in your daily life. Don’t
you agree? Think about it: do you ever find yourself overly reactive,
theatrical or...
Everything pisses me off! Do I need Anger
Management?
by Michael Kimmel
In this column, I respond to a reader whose anger feels out of control,
but he doesn't know what to do about it. Does he need "anger
management"? And
...
Fixing a saggy sex life
by Michael Kimmel
This is an advice column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times. In
this column, the reader asks me: I am in a 10 year relationship that, in
general, ...
Gay Couples and "The Three Year Itch"
by Michael Kimmel
This is a column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times on getting
bored with your partner - especially in bed - after you've been together
for a..
Getting along with difficult people
by Michael Kimmel
This article gives you tips on getting along with stupid, obnoxious
and/or unpleasant people. Since, we really can't avoid them, we need
Everything pisses me off! Do I need Anger
Management?
This is a recent advice column of mine where the writer feels she is "a
woman in a man's body" and wonders what she can do about it. In my reply
I...
Happiness: What is it and how to get more of it
by Michael Kimmel
This is an article published in San Diego's BOTTOM LINE magazine. The
title says it all.
Having fun at parties: don't get stuck with the duds
by Michael Kimmel
This is an advice column I wrote for the San Diego Gay & Lesbian times. In
it, the writer asks for help being assertive in social situations,
particularly, ...
Home for the Holidays
by Rich Gordon
JD
Psychologists agree no matter how difficult your spouse
appears and how angry you are, the best gift you can give your children
during the holiday season .
How to make internet sex work for you
by Michael Kimmel
This is an advice column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times
magazine. In it, the writer wants to know what to do when internet sex is
starting ...
I
hate the holidays!
by
Michael Kimmel
In this column, I advise a reader who finds that Christmas, New Years'
and the other holidays drive him nuts. Here's what you can do to be your
own..
Just what is age-appropriate behavior?
by Michael Kimmel
This is a column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times. It
addresses the question: what is "age-appropriate" behavior for queer men
and women? ...
Lower your Stress, Reduce your Anxiety and Decrease your Panic Disorder
by Michael Kimmel
This is a recent column I wrote for San Diego's GLBT BUZZ magazine.
It addresses how to have a low stress life in several easy-to-do ways.
Check it out
Married to a Sex Addict
by Michael Kimmel
My boyfriend and I have been together
for about 3 year’s now. At the beginning the sex was great, now
it’s almost non-existent, but we still love each other..
Mediation 101
by Rich Gordon
JD
It's not every attorney who will give up a quarter-century of law
practice to enter a relatively new field. That's what Richard
Gordon did recently. Now..
Mediation of Gay/Lesbian marriages not found in court
by Rich Gordon
JD
Gay/Lesbian marriages are not afforded the same rights in California that
are for heterosexual marriages. Mediation is a method that can help with
solutions ...
Mediator: "It's not about winning or losing"
by Rich Gordon
JD
It's not
every attorney who will give up a quarter-century of law practice to
enter a relatively new field.
That's what Richard
Gordon did recently. ..
My best friend is a sleazeball
by Michael Kimmel
This is a recent advice column I wrote for the San Diego Gay & Lesbian
times. In it, I am asked what to when your best friend is really sleazy:
Do you ...
No One’s
Faithful Anymore
by Michael Kimmel
In this column, I reply to a reader who, newly
single after a long relationship, keeps meeting guys who want to fool
around with him "on the side". What to...
Playing the Blame Game
by Michael Kimmel
This is a column I wrote for San Diego's LBGT BUZZ magazine. It
looks at the difference between blame and responsibility; how one frees
us to change and
Prenuptial Agreements
by Rich Gordon JD
How prenuptial
agreements have evolved in the United States over the past 100 years,
including how Barry Bonds affected the laws in the state of...
Sleeping
with my girlfriend (and her dad on the side)
by Michael Kimmel
This is one of the most unusual letters I've received from a reader.
He asks for my advice after sleeping with his girlfriend and, at the
same time - unknownst..
Some thoughts about conflict.
by Charlene Crilley
MFT
Reacting, (speaking without making a conscious decision
about what you want to say) is quite an obstacle to constructive
conflict resolution. On the...
The Half Hour Meeting
by Charlene Crilley
MFT
All the steps to constructive conflict resolution (fair-fighting) are
incorporated into this meeting. It can help you build trust, reduce
defensiveness, ...
The "D word
by Michael Kimmel
Is
it a weakness to feel depressed?
What is depression anyway?
Does it show up differently for men than for
women?
These are questions I hear a..
The Healthy Side of Internet Sex
by Michael Kimmel
There’s a lot of talk in the air about the pros and cons of Internet
sex. The Internet has a lot to offer as far as “healthy sex” is
concerned,
e.g.,
we can arrange..
The Joy of Condoms
by Michael Kimmel
I was out buying condoms this morning and wondered, how we can find the
joy in condoms when so many people just hate them? Poor, innocent
little lengths...
The Peter Pan
Syndrome
by Michael Kimmel
This article is about adults who "won't grow up", just like Peter
Pan...and what to do about it.
To Botox or not to Botox: That is the Question
by Michael Kimmel
This is a recent article I wrote for San Diego's LGBT BUZZ magazine.
It looks at the pros and cons of altering your appearance (botox,
surgery, etc.) and...
Unlearning
Jealousy
by Michael Kimmel
Let’s start
off with a correction to the column in the last issue. There was a
print error in listing some of the reasons people hate condoms, which
included:...
Using EMDR to relieve distress and achieve peak
performance
by Pamela J. Alexandra MFT
EMDR has helped hundreds of thousands of people overcome the effects of
anxiety and emotional stress and to achieve peak performance. ...
Whatever happened to Romance?
by Michael Kimmel
In this column, the reader tells me that he's sick of quick hookups and
fast sex. He wants to be romanced...
What have you done today to make you feel proud?This
article, written for gay pride season in San Diego, asks the question:
as an LGBT person, what AM I really proud of? You may be surprised at
the answers you get.
What is Bioenergetic
Analysis?
by Michael Kimmel
Bioenergetic Analysis is a relational somatic
(body-oriented) form of psychotherapy that lets us understand
personality in terms of our body and its energetic processes.
How much ..
Why is being a part of a gay couple so much work?
by Michael Kimmel
In this column, a reader asks, "Why is being part
of a gay couple so much work?" Indeed, why is it? Is it harder for us
than for heterosexual couples? ...
Yoga + weight training + meditation = happy mind, body and spirit
by Michael Kimmel
This is an advice column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times. Here
is the question from the woman who wrote to me: My doctor told me that I..
Young, HIV-positive and totally bummed
by Michael Kimmel
This is an advice column I wrote for San Diego's Gay & Lesbian Times
magazine. In it, the writer ask for help in coping with a recent
HIV-positive ..
Q Psych - The
psychology of gaining weight
by Michael Kimmel
Last
week, San Diego’s Channel 6 news interviewed me about why people gain
weight. Weight gain (and loss) is, for many of us, right up there with
sex and money on the
.